New Year’s Resolution: a tradition, most common in the Western Hemisphere but also found in the Eastern Hemisphere, in which a person resolves to change an undesired trait or behavior, to accomplish a personal goal or otherwise improve their life. -Wikipedia
New Year’s Resolution: a promise to do something differently in the new year. -Merriam Webster
New Year’s Resolution: a promise to yourself or decision to do something, especially to improve one’s behavior or lifestyle in some way, during the year ahead. -Collin’s English Dictionary
New Year’s Resolution: promises everyone makes at the beginning of the year and fails to keep by about three days to three weeks in. -me
Yeah, really encouraging, right?
I do the same thing. *hides* The part of me that doesn’t absolutely dread entering a New Year (which is approx. 97.2%) jumps at the idea of a new start, a fresh year, and I end up making myself lots and lots and lots of promises. I’m going to eat better, I’m going to exercise more, I’m going to journal every day, I’m going to get a good writing routine going, I’m going to study harder, I’m going to read my Bible everyday. Life is going to be better.
But I very quickly fail myself every time. Sometimes because I just get out of the habit I’d promised myself I was going to get into. Other times, I get discouraged and tell myself I can’t do it. (Yeah, because that’s not setting myself up for failure.)
Resolutions are great, but I think we tend to look at them negatively. We don’t put in the effort because we’re going to fail at some point, right? But that’s a problem right there! You can’t expect to gain anything from your resolutions if you don’t look at them in a positive light. Here are three things to keep in mind when making New Year’s Resolutions.
- You have to decide for yourself to stick to it. So simple, yet so hard. I’ve found that, you can say all day long you’re going to stick to a resolution. You can say “I’m going to eat healthier,” and you can say “I’m going to study harder.” But how easily are you going to crack? You can’t just bail the moment someone walks in with a plate of brownies *low key reveals too much of me*, or you’re feeling too tired to study, or don’t feel like it. When it comes down to it, no one else can hold you to those things. You have to be disciplined. *hammers fist* I know I’ve failed in this area a lot. I mean, it’s just one time, right? Newsflash! Breaking a habit you’re trying to form certainly doesn’t create one. Make a resolution and stick to it.
- Keep yourself motivated. I know a lot of the time, I’ll think that I’m never going to loose any weight. That I’m never going to finish my book. Whatever it is! I’ll think to myself, “Is this really worth it? Is this really going to work?” Well, if I’ve realized one thing, it’s that working to loose weight is an action, and not just a mindset. Writing a book requires sitting down and writing, not just thinking about it. My point is, you’re never going to see the end product if you don’t strive to get there! You’re not going to know if the effort was worth it if you don’t try achieving whatever it is. You have to keep yourself motivated. Never tell yourself it won’t work. Never ask yourself if it’s worth it (if it wasn’t, you either wouldn’t be asking, or it wouldn’t be on the list). You’re setting yourself up for failure that way. Negativity takes you no where but down. You have to look at then positively, with the intention of gaining from them. Reward yourself at your success, stay motivated, and stay positive.
- If you mess up, DO NOT give up. DUDE. This is probably the biggest one, for me anyway; I know I struggle with this. Remember I said stick to your resolutions? Well, sometimes, you just can’t. You’re going to fail sometimes. And other times, maybe it’s something you just can’t help. And if I miss a day, just a small mess up, I get so discouraged, and I “have to wait” until the beginning of the new week to start again. Not true! I especially tend to do this with my bullet journal- those of you who bullet journal probably know what I’m talking about. It’s either extremely helpful, or hopelessly discouraging. I’ll mess up on my tracker, so I’m done for the month. Too bad! Oh well! No. I’ll forget to make a layout for the week, and I’ll completely neglect tasks, waiting for the next week to come. NO! That’s not helping you reach your goals, and you know what else? It’s not adding time to your life; it’s taking time. It’s wasting time (a major enemy of mine, y’all). Guys, treat every day like it’s important. Don’t live for the new year, the next month, or the next week. Live each day as though it’s your last. As though it’s important. Because it is! Do you realize that the day you’re living in right now, that this moment right here, you’ll never get to live in it again? NEVER. I love the quote “Don’t cry over the past; it’s gone. Don’t stress over the future; it hasn’t arrived. Live in the present and make it beautiful.” So, don’t give up. Don’t do it.
Now, keeping these things in mind, go tackle those resolutions! Give it your best! Try everyday to succeed, and if you fail, start again the next day. The next hour. The next minute. Whatever that looks like for you. Put in the effort, don’t tell yourself you can’t, stay positive, don’t give up, and go for it. You’ve got this.
My resolutions are mostly what I’ve listed above.
- Read my Bible, and spend time with God everyday.
- Exercise everyday.
- Eat healthier. (And hopefully lose some weight.)
- Journal more frequently. (At least twice a week…preferably everyday.)
- Come up with a writing schedule and stick with it. A daily word goal. Make time for it.
- Do well in school and studies.
- Keep up with bullet journaling.
- Focus on joy.
- Complain less.
What are your resolutions for the New Year? How are you doing so far? What keeps you motivated to stick with your resolutions? And I just wanted to thank you guys for all the love you gave my first blog post last week- y’all are seriously the best! I’m at a youth conference this weekend, but I’ll catch up on reading posts soon!